For many couples, the defining moment in their lives is when they finally get a baby. After all, it is the moment when they finally become a true family. For some people, having a baby is more than just having someone to take care of; it is an essential part of going through life, both as an individual and as a family.
The reasons for having a baby are varied and for the most part, a couple who has a baby deserves to be congratulated. However, everyone should know that having a baby and raising it are two different matters altogether. Having a baby in your life entails a very big responsibility—bigger, even, than committing to marriage or making a career decision. Here are several things you have to keep in mind.
A Bundle of Joy
For the new parents, there are going to be a lot of lifestyle changes once the baby enters into your lives. Prepare for some really heavy sacrifices, both physical and mental, especially during the first few years of his or her life. Both the mother and the father must pool their resources and time in order to raise one single child. For those who are wondering what to expect, here are some changes that are of note:
Expect to have your free time drastically reduced. Once you have a baby, you will have your hands full juggling so many things that you will feel that 24 hours is not nearly enough in a day. You will feel that way for a long time. Since a baby is practically defenseless, he or she will need all the support you can give, from feeding, changing diapers, soothing the baby, and watching him or her sleep. Yes, when you become a parent, you will want to spend as much time with your baby as much as possible.
Expect to spend more on the baby’s needs. A baby is not just another mouth to feed; in fact, you really won’t be spending much on his or her food, at least during the first few months. The mother will take care of that; remember that breastfeeding is still best for babies up to two years of age. What you will be spending most will be on the things the baby needs in his or her daily life, such as diapers, clothes, and medicine. The cost may be more if you want the best brands for your baby, and you should.
Expect a change in schedule. A baby can be unpredictable, so expect changes in your current timetable. For, example, if you’re used to sleeping at 11 PM sharp, then brace yourself; if the baby feels like crying from 11 PM to 2 AM, then you really have no choice but to stay and soothe the baby until he or she has slept. Don’t expect that once that’s done, you’re free, either. He or she can suddenly burst out crying for no apparent reason at all. Also, you have to start being well-versed with the language of babies. Most of their thoughts and feelings will be communicated via crying.
Those three are just some of the things you can expect to happen in your life once you have a baby. If you’re still sure that you want to have one, then congratulations. You have just passed the first test of becoming a parent.
For those who haven’t become parents yet, some may wonder why having a baby is such a big deal. After all, it is another mouth to feed, and for the women, having a baby practically means nine months of living hell, capped by one of the most painful ordeals in human history. However, ask these same women afterwards if it’s all worth it and they will answer, without hesitation, “yes”. So what are the good things about having a baby?
It is a source of pride and joy. No medal and no trophy can ever replace the joy of becoming a parent. The joy of holding such a frail living thing that came out of your own being is something that can never be replaced by any other. The first time you hear your baby cry, you cannot help but weep in joy as well.
The baby is your living legacy. He or she carries your genes and your DNA, essentially making him or her your unique snowflake. When they say that you live through your children, they are not kidding. As such, it is your responsibility to make sure they grow up to be the best that they can possibly be.
A family is not complete without a child. The family is the core of any society, and it is not complete without the baby. The baby also tests your mettle as a responsible adult. Pass this test and you will always be remembered as someone who is worth respecting.
Having and raising a baby is not a walk in the park. In fact, it is one of the hardest jobs ever, requiring all your energy, resources, and knowledge. To be a parent means that you will have to abandon all your notions of selfishness and devote everything to the raising of another human being. However, endure and you will have found one of the greatest joys of being alive.
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